Anal

7 Toys You Should Be Grateful For

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I set out a few weeks ago to write this article. I asked our regulars, our staff and even some of our vendors, what toys they were grateful for. I envisioned a huge variety of toys and items that I would have to sift through. However, the same 2 names came up over and over again. We-Vibe and Womanizer. If you have ever experienced any of the We-Vibe or Womanizer products you can attest to this yourself.  If you’ve never heard of either of these, chances are all of your friends have.

Womanizer Premium –  “This toy is God’s gift to women.”  

If you haven’t heard us rave about The Womanizer to anyone who will listen, you can read up on it here, here, & here.  A clitoral toy like no other, The Womanizer uses air pulse technology, which pushes and pulls air against the clitoris, until orgasm. This may sound like a fairytale, I thought the same thing the first time I held one, but I can assure you this toy is life changing! Don’t just take my word for it, here are some of the responses we got.

“I’m grateful for the Womanizer Premium just for always being there with the less than 5 min Orgasm! It’ll have you screaming your own name.” Aminah

“I’m thankful for The Womanizer, for allowing me to really let go, and enjoy my multiple orgasams. And keep going!” – Erica

“The Womanizer, because, I never knew my body could do that. Also, it doesn’t desensitize you or ruin you for other toys. It’s a miracle toy.” – Karen

 

The We-Vibe Sync – “My G-spot has never been more in-tune.” 

The We-Vibe Sync is one of the only toys on the market that where women can get constant hands-free clitoral stimulation during sex! The Sync is the newest version of this toy, you can read more about it here and here. Named the sync because you can sync this toy to music or the sounds of your voice within the app. It also comes equipped with more powerful motors and adjustability to fit everybody’s body. You can use this toy as a panty vibe, blow job assistance toy, during sex toy, solo toy, the options are really endless.

“I don’t even know what we would do without the Sync. That thing rocked my world and hers!” – Mark

“My husband is a Marine and is a way a lot. The app for these toys has changed our lives, he can control it no matter what country he is in.” – Trisha

The Nova – “This is everything I wanted traditional rabbits to be.” 

When the We-Vibe Nova came along, I will admit that I was skeptical. It looks like Doctor Seuss is making sex toys. I was never so happy to be wrong in my life! This toy is not only angled perfectly to hit the g-spot, but the arm also flexes to vibrate while adding slight pressure to the clitoris and it has two motors! This toy can also be paired with the app for long distance partner play. You can read more about it here.

“If you are looking for the perfect g-spot toy, the Nova by We-Vibe is where it’s at! I didn’t believe in “squirting” until this toy came along and changed everything!” – Ashley

The Wish – “That rumble tho!” 

The Wish came in, with its perfect palm shape, squishy soft feel and dual deep rumbly motors and won us all over. The two motors have such deep rumbly vibes, that even our customers who traditionally could only use the Magic Wand, have fallen in love with the Wish. It is so good and unassuming that a lot of users have not just one, but two. One for pleasure and one for pain relief. It has 10 vibration modes, it is rechargeable and waterproof! 99% of We-Vibe toys are app-enabled, and with the We-Connect app, the possibilities are endless.

 

The Ditto – “I could feel it during sex and I wasn’t even wearing it!” 

An app controlled plug that is perfectly shaped for her or him or BOTH! The Ditto has such deep rumbly vibrations that your partner can feel it, even if you’re the one wearing it. It is the perfect size for the expert and novice alike. We have talked about this many many times. It has been our best selling vibrating plug. You can read more about it here.

“I was so unsure about anal or prostate period. But the Ditto showed me that anal pleasure is possible and opened me up to a whole new thing.” –  Travis

The Verge – “Just WOW!” 

The Verge is a vibrating c-ring that provides indirect prostate stimulation and full body orgasms. This vibrating c-ring can be worn different ways for your pleasure, or that of your partner. This is the perfect way to introduce external prostate stimulation and get some vibration for your partner. It’s unique shape and rumbly motor will have your toes curling. You can read more about The Verge here.

Womanizer Inside Out – “Just when I thought life couldn’t get any better.”

Womanizer Inside Out not only has the same air pressure technology that we raved about at the top of this article, but its also equipped with an internal vibrator that is perfectly curved to hit the g-spot! Sensation overload and overjoyed!

“I never thought the g-spot would be a real thing for me until I got my hands on this baby. Inside Out keeps me coming back for more!” – Ryah

These toys are just a few of the responses that we got that included the names Womanizer and We-Vibe. The entire Womanizer and We-Vibe lines were mentioned countless times. The testimonials are endless and the stories are real! Don’t believe us? Ask your friends! Then ask them why they kept it a secret. After all, knowledge is pleasure.

Keep an eye out for an incredibly special Black Friday sale featuring all the toys mentioned above and more. It’s a doozy! You can thank me later.

Grace

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Why Women Like It THERE?

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Did you know that one of the most googled questions about sex is “Why do women like anal sex?”
And most of the time when you ask women about anal sex, you will generally get one of the following responses:
1. “NOPE! That’s a hard pass! Never done it. Never gonna do it. No Thanks!”
2. “Ow! Never Again! Tried it once and it was so painful!”
3. “Yes! Knock on my backdoor!”

Anal sex is on the rise. According to Pornhub.com, from 2009 to 2015, anal sex videos have grown in popularity by 120%. And while in some circles it is still considered taboo, our society has become a lot more comfortable with butt stuff. It is one of the questions ladies ask me the most about. Well, that and “is there a G-spot map or something I can give my man?” We will address this later as it deserves its own article.

Most of the time, women’s first experiences with anal sex are not great. This may be due to feeling pressured, lack of lubrication, intoxication, moving too fast or they started with full penile penetration (which you should never do). When done correctly, anal sex should NOT be painful! I know! This is always a real shock to everyone in camps 1 or 2. But it’s true. If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong and you should stop or slow down. All of this comes from a lack of conversation and education.

So why DO women like anal? There are many answers to this. Let’s start at the beginning.

The Anatomy

The anal cavity has a ton of nerve endings that directly connect to the pleasure centers in the brain. And while women do not have prostates like men, they can still experience an immense amount of pleasure from backdoor stimulation. Some women can even orgasm from anal sex alone!

I went out and asked a few women about anal sex and here is what they had to say about it.

“Anal makes me feel powerful. I like that it’s a completely different sensation than vaginal penetration. And honestly, the taboo of it makes it more fun.” – Kiley

“I love it with a vibrator on my clitoris. It’s overwhelming and when I orgasm, it’s phenomenal.” – Merita

“As a submissive type, I like the power it gives to my partner…” – Lindsey

“IT FEELS F’N FANTASTIC.” – Holly

“With him in vaginally and a toy in anally. It makes me feel tighter and I can feel EVERYTHING! The orgasms are so much more intense for him and for me.” – Allie

“The first time I did it, I was 16 and it was awful! It was so painful and embarrassing. However, as an adult, I learned to do it the right way and now I LOVE IT! It feels incredible. It’s almost overwhelming how good it feels sometimes.” – Sarah

What Is The “Right Way”?

1. First things first, RELAX! If you aren’t relaxed you aren’t getting in back there easily or painlessly. So MORE FOREPLAY! The more foreplay you have, the more turned on you become and can help with relaxation. Also, get your partner to give you a massage. Just really let yourself relax.

2. NEVER start with full penis or deep penetration. That’s gonna hurt! And NEVER surprise anal sex on a partner.

3. LUBE IT UP! The anal cavity doesn’t naturally produce moisture back there so lube is imperative. Lube yourself, lube the toy, LUBE IT ALL! We suggest a product like Wicked Anal Jelly. The additional thickness provides a nice cushion and comfortable feel. It is also water-based and compatible with all silicone toys.

4. NEVER EVER NUMB THE AREA. If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong. Stop! You need to be able to feel what is going on back there. You risk tearing and causing damage.

5. We suggest anal training with plugs. Start with a small anal plug. This plug is about the size of an index finger. It has a tapered design that starts small at the top and gradually gets a wee bit larger with a nice flared base that fits perfectly between the cheeks. Cleanliness is of utmost importance. The simplest and most convenient approach to keeping toys clean is to put a condom on your toy every time you play. Refrain from putting toys in vaginal area or switching back and forth, as this can cause spread of bacteria.


If vibration is your thing, try a vibrating plug! Maybe one with a remote so you don’t have to be in an advanced yoga pose to change the vibe pattern.

6. Start shallow. In the beginning, everything should be SLOW and SHALLOW. Just the tip of the toy or finger to start with. Tease yourself slowly, massaging the lubricant around and into yourself. Maintain steady breathing, and when you’re ready, exhale and begin to slide your finger in. Maintain a relaxed pace. Again, if anything hurts or causes your muscles to tense up, slow down, stop moving, or stop altogether. Go slow and breathe.

7. ALL TOYS USED FOR ANAL SEX MUST HAVE A SECURE FLARED BASE! This is one of the most important things we teach our staff and  clients. While the vagina is like a cul-de-sac where nothing will get lost, the anal cavity is the complete opposite. There is nothing  that stops the toy from continuing to travel and get lost if not anchored outside the body. This can result in a trip to the E.R. Make sure your toy has a secure base or hilt to anchor it outside the body. Should you need more convincing or just want a laugh, here is one of our favorite videos about E.R. stories:

8. When buying toys, don’t be afraid to go into a store and see your options! Much like women’s clothes, brands can range in sizes, colors and material.  When you order a ‘small’ plug, you don’t wanna and up with this little guy.

9. Practice makes perfect! Don’t give up after the first time. Nothing is amazing the first time. Just don’t knock it ’til you try it twice.

10. Try stimulating multiple areas at a time. While some women can orgasm from anal stimulation alone, it most often feels best when paired with clitoral, vaginal or nipple stimulation. Mix and match until you find the combo thats just right for you.

     

So many ways to mix and match. Beads, plugs, vibrating, non-vibrating, gems, tails all in various shapes and sizes. Let our product experts help you find the right one!

We-Vibe Ditto

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A powerful, silent, app capable, remote controlled, rechargeable, waterproof, unisex plug? Ok We-Vibe, we see you!

With its sleek tapered design and rocker base the Ditto has been meticulously sculpted to pleasure both men and women. It’s small buy mighty motor is so powerful that we received the following customer feedback.

Thats CRAZY! Can you imagine if both partners were wearing one!? Mind blowing!

And with the We Connect App you can turn this on from ANYWHERE!

Ask Beth: How do I delicately broach the subject of anal play with my wife?

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Paige

Hi, I’m Beth Boatman and I am a professional human sexuality educator and consultant dedicated to enlightening adults about all things related to sexuality.

My interest in sexuality started as a curious child who asked my parents LOTS of questions. Fortunately, my parents were excellent at providing me with both honest and age-appropriate information. While searching for my life goals in my early college years, I found my calling at Widener University, which houses the only fully accredited doctoral program in human sexuality in the country.

I am a lifelong resident of the Dallas-Fort Worth, Texas area and have provided individuals with sexuality education on topics ranging from sexually transmitted infection prevention to female ejaculation.

When I’m not teaching about sexuality I’m doing yoga, window-shopping at fancy grocery stores, spending time with people I love, and experimenting in the kitchen with new recipes.

Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, or online.

Q: How do I delicately broach the subject of anal play with my wife?

A: Talking about anal play with your significant other can seem tricky, but it’s all about in the way you bring it up. 

Here is some helpful hint to get you started:

  • Let her know that you want to take some time and experiment with her.
  • Promise her that you will go slow and listen carefully to her needs and wants.
  • Explain that your not looking to engage in deep anal sex, but you would like to play around to see if other things in and around the anus feel good to her. (It’s highly possible that it will)
  • You can even attend a class or buy a book about anal sex to learn together. Learning more about anal play with you will mostly likely greatly enhance her comfort level.
  • Purchase a beginners anal toy and anal lube.

Also, its important that you play when both of you are sober (maybe like one glass of wine but that’s it). Being intoxicated numbs the body and this can be really bad during anal sex. If something hurts you need to know. Otherwise, you could really do some damage.

By the way, the reason she jumps if you accidentally “prod the outside of it during a mid-sex slip-up” is because the anus needs to be massaged and rubbed first in order to be penetrated (even with a pinky finger). An accidental “slip-up” makes even anal sex pros jump.